Positive thinking vs realism

Don't think about what might go wrong, think about what might go right.

What you believe will become your truth.

Declare your dreams to the Universe.

We've all read these type of quotes before, and understand the concept of manifesting your dreams. Think about the things you want, create a vision board, put them out to the Universe and it will reward you. I don't want to rain on your parade, nor am I a negative-nelly, but at what point do we just need to be realistic? No matter how much I think about it, write it, or express it to the world, when I check my bank balance this afternoon, there won't be $1, 000, 000 in there!

If I worked at my million-dollar-dream, in time it would happen. But that's the key... TIME. A quote that I find to resonate with me is one that I think came from my yoga teacher,

Don't say you can't do it, say you can't do it today.

You can do anything, maybe just not today.  

Where has this new found clarity come from? Anyone who has tried to fall pregnant and encounter any kind of struggle, might understand the roller coaster of emotions you are taken on each month. In the beginning I was all about positive thinking, the 'yep it will happen this month', only to be devastated when it didn't. Then I went through a stage of bitterness, 'oh well it's never going to happen anyway'. I was protecting myself by preparing for the worst. From the outside it probably looked like I was turning into a negative person, but I felt I was protecting myself from pain, by being 'realistic'. Maybe a little too much so. 

People have been telling me for a long time that it will happen when it's meant to, but when you feel happy, healthy and well, you feel like now would be a great time and it's hard to understand why you have to wait. Over the past few weeks (I know, only recently!) I have been working to accept that it will happen when it's meant to. Trying not to get too emotionally invested in the process, and taking it as it comes. I know I will have a baby one day, maybe just not today!

This whole process has taught me that you should set your dreams high, but know that the key is time. If you stick at it, and keep your dreams clear, they will happen. As always, remember to be kind to yourself along the way!

Are you being realistic about your positive thinking? I'd love you to share your thoughts below!

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Kate Caddle

Kate Caddle is a life coach, writer, & intimate event facilitator.

She works with women whose lives look great on paper, but don’t feel so great on the inside. Helping them overcome jealousy, comparison and perfectionism, so they can take back their power, stop playing victim, and show up in their full potential.