The Green-Eyed Monster
Last week I was feeling quite exhausted both physically and emotionally, and pushed through more than I should have. I missed a couple of yoga classes because I was so tired, and 'out of sorts'. Friday morning came around and I woke at my usual time just before 6am. I felt tired and off. So I stayed in bed until 9am. This is so unusual for me, I'm usually up early and into the day, because thats the way I like it! On Friday I needed to rest.
As the morning went on, self sabotaging thoughts crept their way in. 'Why am I doing this?' 'No one likes what you're doing' 'You aren't doing very well' 'Things are taking too long for you, maybe this is a sign you should do something else'. I knew I shouldn't entertain these thoughts, I knew better, but thats the thing, these thoughts only come to you when your run down, worn out and vulnerable, and don't have the strength you need to kick them to the curb.
I quickly decided that Friday would become a day for me. There was a bit of work I needed to do, but I put it off until later in the day without allowing myself to feel guilty.
I knew I needed to put myself first in order to get to my happy place again
So I stayed in bed and had a silly snap chat session with my friend Jess. We also spoke about why these thoughts and feelings should be felt, accepted and moved on from. It's important to reach out to the people who love you most when you are in need. Jess reminded me about the things about myself that I'm proud of, that i'd momentarily forgotten.
I spent the rest of the day doing things that make me feel good. Raw 'cooking', yoga and spent some time with my dog baby, Kobe. (I also squeezed in that work at the end of the day!)
It was really important for me to have this time to feel what I needed to feel, rather than push my emotions to the side. By the end of the day I was feeling a lot better, and refreshed to continue in the direction I'm supposed to.
Here are my top tips for finding your way through jealousy
1. Write a list of the things you love about yourself, achievements you've made recently and things you can be proud of. It can be hard, but push through, once you start it gets easier.
2. Take time out. I understand not everyone is in a position to be able to take a full day off. Just work with what you have.
3. Do something you love! Lay in the sun, cook your fav meal, watch trashy tv, whatever it is that makes you feel good. Gorging on fast food is not the answer, make sure you do something that makes you feel good later as well!
4. Talk to someone who loves you. Be honest and let them know you need a little pick me up.
5. Be kind to yourself! It is totally natural to feel this way, be kind and work through the process, you'll feel better knowing you can make it through those moments.
What tips do you have for moving through jealousy? Your ideas might resonate with someone else. Share your thoughts below.