say goodbye to your new years resolutions right now
So here we are two weeks into 2015, and I'm not sure about you, but I feel more motivated, optimistic and content than ever. Why? Because I don't have one single New Year's resolution to think about. Not one. Let me share a little story with you.
Not so long ago, my diet was a relatively healthy plant based one, that also included some white meat. But I hated how I felt when I went to restaurants, having to order especially for my dietary needs, (I'm also celiac and lactose intolerant) or that my diet choices always ended up the topic of conversation. 'Why don't you eat red meat? You must be so low in iron.' ' You're so skinny, you need a good steak'. Aside from the fact that it was rude, it also made me question what I was doing.
So I set myself the New Years resolution to become a red meat eater again. On reflection, I can see that this was a 100% fear based decision. Instead of listening to what my body wanted, I allowed myself to be swayed by social acceptance. And let me tell you, it's an easy thing to do!
That's the thing with goals, sometimes they don't come from the right place. For example, instead of wanting to loose weight, a healthier goal would be to nourish your body with whole foods. And then logically the weight will shift too. Although this is easy to see when you look from the outside, it's not always easy to see when you're doing it yourself. And for this very reason, I'm giving you permission to drop every single New Years resolution you've set. Right now, say goodbye to them.
Instead, lets talk about a theme. A theme will set you up to be open to interpret a concept in different parts of your life, it allows you to be open to possibility, and allows you freedom. You might like to think about the goals you set for a moment (I know I said to let them go, but just a moment longer) is there something common between them? From this common thread you can then create your theme.
Here are some examples to get you thinking ...
- Self love
- Soul Medicine
You can see how these can relate to different parts of your life, and how they open you up rather, than lock you down.
For example the theme nourish might relate to nourishing your body with great food, nourishing your soul with loving friendships and intentional living, and nourishing the people around you by sharing kind words.
When you lock yourself into a goal, chances are you're missing the bigger picture
Do you want to know the ironic part of my story? I became a plant based vegetarian that year. And now I'm a fully fledged plant obsessed, animal loving, super proud gluten free vegan girl! And do I feel like I failed am my goal? Absolutely not!
Now I'd love you to share your ideas with me. What's your theme for 2015? Contribute your thoughts in the comments section below.