Surviving the holidays and still honouring yourself, is it possible?
That Pavlova looks amazing.
I’m just going to eat it.
But it’s not healthy.
It is Christmas time though.
I mean, it does have fruit on top.
Yeah but I’ve worked so hard all year.
Ah who cares, I’ll just eat it.
Why did I do that?
I feel terrible.
Oh the joys of Christmas.
No really, I love Christmas it’s my favourite time of year. I love spending time with my family, going to the beach, celebrating and enjoying delicious food.
But the truth is, for a lot of us, it’s a time for the internal battle to ramp up, and can bring on a lot of guilt, self-judgement and resentment.
So how do you avoid the Boxing Day guilt while enjoying Christmas day without restrictions?
Be kind to yourself.
Let me explain.
THE INTERNAL BATTLES ARE ABOUT WHETHER WHAT WE'RE DOING ALIGNS WITH WHO WE ARE.
It doesn’t really matter the specifics of the battle, or what time of year it is. It boils down to alignment.
Imagine if we took the negative pressure out of the equation, and just allowed ourselves to do what we felt we wanted to.
Instead of beating ourselves up for having an extra serve of Pav, why don’t we enjoy every beautiful mouthful, flavour, taste and texture, and then pick up where we left off?
At least that way we benefit from the positive rush of endorphins and happiness through our veins.
Here are my top four tips for honouring yourself during the holidays …
SET AN INTENTION
When it comes to eating out, spending time with family, and giving and receiving presents, it doesn’t hurt to spend a little bit of time forward thinking.
Set yourself an intention for the event. What is the event about for you? What do you want to focus on? Love, generosity, kindness, compassion.
What do you feel you need to bring to the event in order to show up as your best self?
Simplify it into either a short sentence or one word, and remind yourself of your intention throughout the day.
It may also be beneficial for you to put some forward thought into what your will eat/drink at the events. Will you drink alcohol? How many glasses? What food will be available? Can you contribute something nutritious to the mix?
If you have a loose plan ahead of time, you’re more likely to honour yourself and not be swayed by what everyone else is doing.
LET YOUR HAIR DOWN
Christmas is a time for celebration, and I encourage you to embrace that. Have fun, be silly and let go of the pressure you put on yourself.
It might help to reminisce on Christmas as a child, what lit you up?
Let your inner child free, and let your hair down.
And of course, I believe it’s best if you can do this naturally without the help of drugs or alcohol.
Remember this, you’re perfect. Exactly as you are.
And it doesn’t matter if you eat the Pavlova or not.
No external act will define or change who you deeply are.
Keep it in perspective, and don’t take life too seriously.
KEEP UP YOUR SELF CARE
Spending most of our time externally, and choosing not to turn inward, can be detrimental to our self-connection.
Just because you have lots of social engagements on the cards, doesn’t mean you can’t still embrace your inner goddess, in fact I would argue those are the times you need to embrace her the most.
If you’re looking for inspiration to keep your self love on track for the holidays, Pockets of Love Self Love companion for the holidays might be just what you need.
With day by day self love practices, this will keep you on track well into the new year.
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Now I’d love to hear from you.
What is your intention for Christmas day, and how will you honour yourself through the holidays?
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