At 27 years old, the longest friendship I’ve kept is just over 10 years, and it’s with my girl Elle. We met working together at a business college back when we were 17. We’ve stayed close the whole time, she stood next to me the day I got married, and signed her name on my marriage certificate as my witness. Which I think is a pretty big deal!
When we met we had an instant connection and we had so much fun working together, even if our boss was a little (a lot) crazy. When I reflect back, we were both really different then to how we are now, but in lots of ways we were the same.
For a really long time, this was the only friendship I had that I felt comfortable to be real and raw in, all the time, even when Elle laughs at me and calls me a hippy, because I know she loves me because of my quirks. And they would never be a reason for her to distance herself from me or judge me. Because she respects me for who I am.
Every part of me.
As I do for her.
10 years into our friendship we’ve both been able to appreciate just how special it is to have a friend like that.
One who loves you no matter what.
Would be by your side in a heartbeat.
And would never ever judge you.
But in recent years something really interesting has happened.
As I’ve become more in tune with who I am, connected to my truth and begun to live my purpose, so many amazing women have come into my life.
I’m talking women who are literally changing the world, are expanding their horizons, challenging the status-quo, birthing incredible little humans, building heart centered businesses and best of all are real, raw and honest.
(I’m seriously getting Goosebumps writing this when I think about these beautiful women)
Having friendships like this in my life has opened my eyes to how incredibly loving and supportive women can be when they don’t live from ego.
THE COMPETITION, COMPARISON AND BITCHY CHIT-CHAT IS OUT THE WINDOW, AND IT'S REPLACED WITH LOVE, SUPPORT AND HONESTY.
Pretty cool thought huh?
The thing is, if you don’t have friendships like this in your life, it’s likely because of something you’re doing.
It’s likely true, and I know this because I was in the exact same place a few years ago.
I was scared of women. All I saw was how much prettier they were. How much more successful they were. How much more money they appeared to have. How much happier they were.
And I questioned whether they would ever want to be friends with someone like me.
I DIDN'T BELIEVE I WAS WORTHY OF DEEP, POWERFUL FRIENDSHIPS.
And let me tell you, it’s only the power of hindsight that has told me this!
I can see now that when I decided to fill up my self love cup, appreciate and love who I am, and notice how loving a friend I am, that the friendships I was so deeply craving, came into my life.
IT'S LIKE I'VE BECOME A MAGNET FOR REAL FRIENDSHIPS.
And it’s the best feeling in the world, because when you break it down, all I had to do to attract this was become the deepest, most truthful version of myself.
And it’s the same for you.
So if you’re craving real friendships, get to work on bringing your most truthful self forward. Because whoever you’re attracting now, is a reflection of you.