Last weeks blog post was a big one, and I received some amazing feedback. It felt great to stand in my truth, and I’m really proud of that.
I know that it wasn’t for everyone, and some people didn’t agree with what I did, but I want you to know that’s ok. I still like you!
I believe that all we can ever do is be our most authentic selves, show up with truth and step closer to that in each and every moment.
I can say with confidence, that’s what I did last Wednesday.
But there’s something I want you to know.
What I WROTE last Wednesday is no longer where I sit.
And that’s for three reasons.
I want to share those with you, because although your life and challenges differ from mine, the essence of moving forward is the same.
Take what you can from my story and apply it to yours!
FEEL IT. FOR REAL.
We live in an age where we are expected to act in a certain way. To always be happy, positive, energetic etc. But the truth is, we don’t always feel that way.
Following this pattern we get into a rhythm of pushing our feelings to the side, and ‘getting on with it’. All the while never processing the not so nice feelings.
As a coach, I see old pain resurface in my clients every single day.
Past pains that were never truly felt, and so they sit somewhere in our subconscious, waiting to pop up when we least expect it.
And the weight is real.
Not just emotional, but physically too.
Fogginess, fatigue, sugar cravings, agitation, stress.
They can ALL be associated with stored emotions.
Think about a young child for a second.
If they’re upset, they cry and cry, until the emotion has passed, and then they move on.
Without the need to revisit it, analysis it or think about what should have been done differently.
I took this on board when dealing with the anger that was surfacing for me. I knew I had to feel it in order to move past it.
And by doing so, I’ve moved through the anger, and can feel a weight lifting from my heart.
I encourage you to feel into your emotions in a way that doesn’t harm others.
Have a temper tantrum, cry your eyes out, journal about it – or post it on your blog!
Do whatever you need to, in order to feel the discomfort, then step forward.
PRACTICE SELF ACCEPTANCE
It’s so easy to judge ourselves when we feel emotionally pulled back.
What’s wrong with me?
I don’t want to feel like this!
Why can’t I just go back to how I was feeling?
Because it’s likely you’re upleveling. Your life experiences are forcing your to grow.
And we’re all human.
This is life, and the best thing we can do is face what is in front of us the best that we can (hello presence).
For me self acceptance comes when I practice self love, in the form of taking time out for me, and reminding that nasty voice in my head, that I’m doing the best that I can.
What does it look like for you? If you're not sure, follow your gut, whats on thing you could do right now to make yourself feel more loved.
ASK FOR SUPPORT
You would be hard pressed to find an a-lister, successful business owner, sports star and spiritual leader, that doesn’t have at least on life coach.
Why? Because we can’t do life alone!
And as much as we love our family and friends, it’s not their job to be 100% support to you all the time! But for a coach, their number one role is YOU!
Since going through IVF last year, I have had 2 different coaches, and have spent a lot of one on one time with my spiritual healer friend Karla.
I know that without them the past year would have moved a lot differently than it has.
That’s why I love what I do as a life coach. I can give back to amazing women like you, and support you to live the life you want to live.
I've created a number of resources for you, some of which are to free, to deepen their own personal growth. I hope you find them useful in helping you to move forward.
Now I’d love to turn it over to you. What have you done in the past to help you move through a tough time in your life? Or which one of these steps can you implement this week? Share your answer with us in the comments section below.