ARE YOU CHOOSING HAPPILY EVER AFTER?

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Some heart musings I had to share…

 

I was having a conversation with a friend recently about the rate at which different coaches grow their communities, and what in fact is the perfect combination of insights, real life and cute pictures. We didn’t really come to any neat conclusions, but what we did observe, is that for a lot of the truth speakers, it seems to take a little longer to get the momentum flowing.

In all honesty, I don’t have any concrete evidence to back this up, it just purely comes from observation, and the particular brands and people we were observing, and it got me thinking …

 

Are we looking for the truth, or are we looking for someone to tell us we’ll live happily ever after?

 

On some level, for most of us, we say that we want the truth. The depth, the honest storytelling of what life feels like when you’re actively showing up for the life you want to live, even if it’s a little messy and ugly, we say we want the truth.

But if this were the case, why do we see so many bloggers and instagramers skyrocket to success via their beautiful imagery, and ‘punny’ quotes. Growing their audiences seemingly overnight, over beautiful imagery?

Do we observe that there is in most cases, a difference?

Are we looking for a glamorised picture of our potential happily ever after? You know the pinterest life you dream about living if only you had xyz?

I have zero against curated imagery, in fact, I follow a lot of beautiful accounts and blogs, purely for the images - rarely reading what comes along with it. And if I ask myself why, it’s for joy. To look at something that makes me feel joy.

And if I’m super truthful (I’m one of those truth tellers) I have a little bit of a happily ever after vision for myself, that is often inspired by what I see online.

The one day picture of the perfect life.

There’s no doubt that the media play a huge role in our vision for what makes a ‘good human’ and a ‘ happy life', telling us to look a certain way, live in a certain type of house, eat certain types of food and be friends with certain types of people.

This is no secret, and collectively we’re waking up. Taking what they want, and leaving the rest. How good is change?!

But have you considered your role in this?

Are you adding fuel to the fire by consciously consuming (because you’re choosing who you follow and engage with) content that isn’t serving you?

It’s easy to blame the media for the unrealistic societal pressure we’re under, but what role do we play in this?

How much are you adding to this issue by absorbing content from people and brands who are selling the ideal of a picture perfect life? #themodelsdontevenlooklikethemodels #iknowiusedtodotheirmakeup

It’s confronting when we stop blaming, stop being a victim, and ask ourselves what role we play in where we hold the bar that measures happiness.

Are you pushing it higher?

And I mean here is it, me telling the truth, laying it out raw. 

Will you take it, work with it, and make a change? Or will you look for the shiny promise of your picture perfect life and subscribe to that?

This isn’t about me shaming you if that’s the choice you make, this is about us human beings becoming more conscious about what we choose. Know that it is a choice.

And for the purists, it’s not about one or the other. We don’t have to choose the perfect life OR the honest one.

We can have the honest one, and still have the perfection. In fact, is that not what actual perfection is?

Not the false perceived kind. But rather that deep inhale and the long exhale that’s followed by a wave of gratitude for this glorious life, and that sparkle of presence.

 

Oh how I live for those moment, that’s what I’ll choose, over and over again.

 

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Kate Caddle

Kate Caddle is a life coach, writer, & intimate event facilitator.

She works with women whose lives look great on paper, but don’t feel so great on the inside. Helping them overcome jealousy, comparison and perfectionism, so they can take back their power, stop playing victim, and show up in their full potential.